From complete strangers at the grocery store to people at work, it seems you can’t go anywhere without someone saying something every five minutes about your pregnancy. Early on it was people sharing stories of what to eat, what not to eat, how much or how little to exercise, how their pregnancy went for them, etc. Now it’s all about the fact that you’re “still pregnant.” You’re still here? You look like you’re about to pop! Whoa, You’re Huge! How are you feeling? (intended to solicit an answer which will provoke a 10 minute conversation about their own experience), Are you sure you’re not having twins? Are people really that insensitive?
You are most likely tired of being pregnant by the time you hit about 36 or 37 weeks, however you also know that the baby will come when she is ready. But what’s really driving you crazy is the fact that all people can talk to you about is your “huge” belly! And another thing: why do they keep telling you ways they feel they successfully induced their labor? Do they think you’ve been pregnant long enough? It seems they are more anxious for your pregnancy to end than you are!
So, the question is, should you say what’s really on your mind or should you be polite? Here are some tips for handling these and other comments and questions while you await the birth of your special new arrival. Keep in mind that you can be polite, but don’t be afraid to let people know when they have crossed the line. The fact is, people really want to connect with pregnant women. They’ve either been there before, or their wife has, or someone they know has. Creating a new life is one of the most exciting and mysterious phases of humanhood, and people are fascinated by it. Unfortunately, they seem to forget their manners when it comes to pregnant women.
You’re still here?
Try: “It appears so.” Or “Yup, still growing the baby.” Or “Last time I checked.”
Are you sure you’re not having twins? This is often preceded by Whoa! Or You’re huge!
Try: “I guess I would know by now if I were having twins.”
You’re huge!
Try: “"My doctor says I'm right on track." How would you like it if I said that to you?” Or “You know, that’s not really a nice thing to say to someone.”
How are you feeling? This is not the normal “Hi, how are ya?” question people ask.
Try: “Fine, thanks!” This makes it clear you are not willing to give an opportunity to launch into a long-winded conversation about yours, or theirs, or anyone else’s pregnancy for that matter.
If they don’t get the point, you can always bluntly let them know they’ve crossed the line.
Get ready for even more unsolicited advice and comments once your baby finally does arrive; everyone’s an expert when it comes to parenting. And you thought only kids said the darndest things!
